International Womans day

We explore how self-trust sharpens judgment, reduces second-guessing, and makes boundaries easier to set. Victoria shares personal stories on letting go of permission-seeking, acting before feeling “ready,” and building respectful confidence in ourselves and our families.

• defining self-trust as trusting your judgment
• spotting the habit of asking for permission
• seeing confidence dip while trust remains
• making clearer decisions with less doubt
• setting boundaries as self-respect
• handling pushback when limits hold
• choosing action over waiting for ready
• backing yourself to grow resilience
• teaching confidence with respect at home

We will be back on Monday, the ninth, which is tomorrow, and we're gonna be talking. Oh, yeah, we've got a really exciting topic tomorrow. I'm not gonna tell you what it is, but we will be back tomorrow

Transcript

Defining Self-Trust

Permission Seeking Vs Judgment

Confidence Can Dip, Trust Stays

Clear Decisions And Less Doubt

Boundaries And Self-Respect

Letting Go To Grow

Action Before Readiness

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Hello everyone, it's Victoria here. Welcome back to another episode, and it is Sunday, March 8th, 2026, and it is International Women's Day. So, what better day to come back with the pod than today? What a perfect, perfect day. So I want to talk to you about self-trust as a woman. So, what does that mean? What if I said to you, what does self-trust mean to you? What would you say? What would you say to yourself, wherever you are listening to the pod at the moment? Ask yourself that question. What does self-trust mean to you? Now, self-trust means to me believing in my own judgment, not anyone else's, just believing in my own judgment. And the thing is, many ladies are taught to ask others what they think first. And I I've done it. I've done it. Um, you know, I've been in situations where I've been like, um, well, I don't know. What do you think? Yeah, I actually know what I think. I don't know. Maybe I was too frightened to say it. And that could be in any type of situation. Am I like that now? No, I'm not. I like to hear other people's views that I love to hear. But if I have a view and, you know, I think something about it could be anything, couldn't it? About work, life, family, could it could be anything. The list is endless. I will always give, give my thought, you know, this is what I think. And that it does come down to self-trust. Self-trust means believing in your own judgment, and that is it. That is it. And self-trust grows through experience and not permission. Your self-trust is not going to grow if you are continually asking for permission. Well, I don't know about this. What do you think? Or it's like you're asking for permission, isn't it? For someone to turn around and say, Well, well, actually, I think this. And then all you might not, you might think, Oh, and I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna say anything because that person thinks this, and and my view is is totally different. But actually, you might give your view on something, and then that person goes, actually, you know what, I agree, you know. But I think a lot of us just wait for that permission to actually say what we're thinking. And we don't need permission, we just need to trust our own judgment. And confidence can disappear, but self-trust stays. We can lose our confidence. Oh gosh, I can't tell you how many times I've lost my confidence. But it didn't mean that I didn't so much trust my own judgment, it just probably meant that well, I say probably meant, it did mean that I just lost my confidence. It didn't mean I didn't trust myself, I just lost my voice. You know, do you understand where I'm coming from on this? I think a lot of you probably will. When you, you know, when you trust yourself, decisions become so much clearer because you know where you're at, you trust your own judgment. If you're making a decision, it could be the worst decision you're making, but at the end of the day, the decision's clearer, whether it be right or wrong. And what happens? You stop constantly second guessing yourself. I don't know about you, but oh my goodness. When you second guess yourself, it is an absolute pain in the butt because you're questioning yourself all of the time. But when you stop doing that, everything is so much more clearer. And the thing is, you don't need everyone to agree with you, you don't even need one person to agree with you. You just need to trust your judgment. It doesn't matter if no one else agrees, if that's what you think, you trust your own judgment and you don't back down. And what happens then is boundaries become easier to set. No, I I never ever used to set boundaries ever. Maybe I had some unspoken boundaries that probably I didn't even realise that I had. And then it was about maybe four or five years ago I started to just set a few, a few boundaries with people in my life, and some of those people didn't like it. And the only reason that they didn't like it was because they wanted to break those boundaries. Well, hang on a minute, you know, what why is she setting boundaries? I'm used to being able to say what I like or treat that person however I like or break those boundaries, step over those boundaries. When you start to set boundaries, your life improves 100%. And that's what I did, and you know, it did mean that actually certain people in my life weren't part of my life anymore, but that was okay. And you know, I had a friend, and oh gosh, she was such a dear friend, and I'd had this friend since I was 14, and I started to set a few boundaries, and she didn't like it, and it was because she she she wanted to step over those boundaries, treat me anyway, in the way that well, treat me in not a nice way, and I had that person it, you know, as much as it was quite heartbreaking, but she couldn't be in my life anymore, my life improved. And it just goes to show if you set boundaries, it is a mark of respect to yourself. And when you take action instead of waiting to feel ready, see this is this is such a good point. How many times have you said to yourself, Oh, I'll do that when I'm ready, or I'm not going to that place, I'll go when I'm ready, or I'll go there when I'm I I weigh a certain amount. I used to say that a lot. And it's only very recently that I've thought, you know what, I'm on a weight loss health journey, but what do I do? Do I just continue to stop going to certain places because I feel that someone might comment on my weight? No, that is ridiculous. I did it for six years, and it is the most awful thing, like the most ridiculous decision I could have made. And now I'm breaking that down and I'm not listening to that narrative anymore. And the thing is, you take action instead of waiting, and by taking action, you are ready. You are ready. The more you back yourself, the stronger that trust becomes. It is so important that everyone, not just ladies, but everyone, believes in themselves. You know, my son, he's 21 years old, and one of the things that I wanted to instill into him was confidence. I knew that if he had confidence, he could do anything. And I managed to do that. I managed to bring him up with a level of confidence that was respectful. That was really important as well. And the more you back yourself, the stronger the trust, the confidence, and everything else, everything else gets it just gets stronger. So I hope you've enjoyed the pod today. We will be back on Monday, the ninth, which is tomorrow, and we're gonna be talking. Oh, yeah, we've got a really exciting topic tomorrow. I'm not gonna tell you what it is, but we will be back tomorrow. So have a fantastic International Women's Day, and I will talk to you all very, very soon.